Number of those who refuse to celebrate St. Valentine’s Day is gradually increasing. While the material factors prevail, those who maintain strong relationships remain distant to this stereotype, unromantic, conspicuous day… And they have grounds…
As is known to most of us, the history of St. Valentine’s Day dates back to ancient era, and it is the symbol of the day which is dedicated to the divine marriage of Zeus and Hera. Then, it started to be celebrated as Lupercalia day in honour of Lupercus, fertility god of Ancient Rome, and subsequently as St. Valentine’s Day. Eventually, in the 19th century it became Valentine’s Day after Esther Howland sent the first Valentine postcard in the U.S. Red hearts, roses, teddy bears… The gifts have been made status symbols and the importance of this day was so much overrated that the remaining 364 days lost their value in terms of how couples treat each other.
However, the couples who have strong bonds, and serious relationships have already seen that it is not possible to “force someone into love.” They know that engagement to someone, be it love or affection, cannot be made up of just some roses or balloons with hearts. Here are some reasons why some couples deem it unnecessary to celebrate St. Valentine’s Day:
- Romanticism is not a Necessity
You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. Today we do not have to tell our feelings or pledge loyalty to each other and have candlelit dinners. We do not need a day for all these.
- Completely Financial
Expensive set meals of restaurants, red roses, vacations or all kinds of activities devoted to couples with much higher prices than standard days. Nothing but blind robbery…
- Proof of “Perfect Relationship”
Relationship concerns two parties. We do not have to prove our success or failure to anybody. There is nothing more meaningless and irritating than the questions “What did s/he buy you?” after the St. Valentine’s day.
- No need to search romanticism among crowds
What is the purpose of trying to prove the dynamics of your relationship, how you define it, to the thousands of couples who are completely different from you, wandering with baby toys and pink chocolates? Thoroughly unromantic…
- Being a couple is not the goal
Single ones also can be pretty happy. It is ridiculous to think that you are one step ahead of the single ones just because you have a boy/girlfriend. No matter you are single or couple… When the people understand that their homes, dogs, families, health conditions and jobs are also important to be happy, this kind of special days will come to an end.
Still, if you determined to celebrate it, at least do not spend money like water. Find some modest gifts or go on a bike tour or make picnic together (if you find a place among the crowd do not forget to buy a lottery ticket). Or what about celebrating it one day earlier or later? Don’t you like it? Then invent other days.
Let’s celebrate Library Lovers Day or Observation Wheel Day on the 14th of February…